There was once a man who felt that his wife was having a bit of a hearing problem. Trying to spare her feelings, he secretly decided to meet their family doctor for advice. The doctor suggested that the husband used the easiest and oldest technique to test his wife's problem. That technique would be able to tell the doctor of how bad is the wife's hearing loss.
"You have to stand about 40 feet away from her and have a normal chit chat with her using your normal voice and tone. If she could not hear you, come closer to 30 feet. If she still couldn't hear you, do it at 20 feet and continue until she could hear you."
"Sounds easy," said the man delightfully. So, later that day, when his wife was preparing dinner, he estimated his distance from his wife.
40 feet. Yup, this is about that, he whispered to himself. "What are we having for dinner, honey?" he asked, using the normal voice tone. She didn't answer.
So, he come closer. 30 feet...he estimated carefully. Again, he asked, "What are we having for dinner, honey?" Still no response.
Wow, this is bad, he said to his himself while moving into 20 feet from the wife. Again there was no response.
He continue and became so close to her that he was just standing beside her when he asked. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
His wife turned to him and said,
"For goodness sake, for the seventh time, my dear. I said it is CHICKEN!"
Yes, what do you know? All the while the dear hubby thought that it was his wife who was having the hearing problem. Turned out, it was his ears that needed checking.
It made me ask myself these questions - how many times have I behaved like the hubby? How many times have I blamed someone else without realizing that the problem started from me? How many times do I quickly blame someone else instead of looking into myself to find where are the faults in me? Who are the 'wives' that had to suffer my blaming? Why was I so confident that it wasn't me who was 'deaf'? Why didn't I check my own ears before insisting that my 'wives' check theirs?
I really am truly sorry for the 'wives' out there whom I have thought to be 'deaf' all the while when in fact, it was the other way around.
What about you, dear friends? =.=
Ehem, excuse me. I am talking to you..
Testing, testing, one, two, three...can you hear me?
Wait, is it me or you?